Richard Bandler, John Grinder Frogs Into Princes

Podstrony

[ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ]
.He reaches out toward her and nothing happens.Soyou find a counterpart and say to her:"Have you ever had the experience of wanting and needing help,really seeing the need for companionship and assistance, and it's likeyou're standing in the middle of the desert and you look around inall directions and there's no one there? You don't see anybody andyou are all alone.Do you know that's what he feels when he comes42toward you and reaches out and you back up?"The point is not whether those are actually accurate examples or not.The point is that you can use the principle of sorting people byrepresentational systems, and then overlapping to find counterpartsbetween them.That establishes something that even the majorinsurance companies in this country have adopted, "no-fault" policies.Family and couple therapists ought to at least have that, and have away of demonstrating it.As I stand back and give her space see what I'm saying, and I get inclose to him and make good solid contact with him, the teaching at theunconscious is this: / can get responses from her that hewould love to get, and I can get responses from him that she would loveto get.That's never mentioned; that's all at the unconscious level.Sothey will model and adopt my kinds of behavior to make theircommunications more effective.That's another way of making contactand establishing rapport with each individual member and thentranslating between representational systems, as a way of teachingthem how to communicate more effectively.Reference systems are also important.What if someone comes inand tells you "I don't know what I want." They are saying that theydon't have a reference system.We taught a seminar just recently and awoman there said that she had a very difficult time.She could notdecide what she wanted from a menu.She had no basis on which tomake that decision.She said her whole life was like that; she couldnever decide things, and she was always dissatisfied.So we literallymade up a decision strategy for her.We said OK, when you are facedwith a decision, go inside and tell yourself what it is you have to decide,no matter what it is.Let's say you are in a restaurant.Tell yourself"You must choose Then go back to sensory experience and findout what your choices are.In other words, read the menu.you read"hamburger" on the menu, make a picture of a hamburger in front ofyou, taste what it would taste like, and check whether that feels positiveto you or not.Then read "fried eggs," see fried eggs in front of you,taste what they would be like, and check whether that feels positive toyou or not.After she went through the process of trying that a fewtimes, she had a way of making decisions, and started to make themquickly and unconsciously for all kinds of things in her life.As she went through that process a number of times, it became43in the same way that learning to drive a car does.It dropsinto unconsciousness.Consciousness seems to be occupied by thingswe know how to do too well.When we know how to do thingsreally well, we do them automatically.Man: We were wondering about accessing smells.We played withthat a little bit and discovered that they went visual to see the objectand then to the smell.Not necessarily.You used the sequence you described.You said"What we discovered they do and then you described yourself.That is a common pattern in modern psychotherapy, as far as I cantell.Thomas Szasz said "All psychology is either biography or auto-Most people are doing therapy with themselves instead ofother people.To respond more specifically to your statement, peoplecan access olfactory experience in many different ways.One of thethings you can notice, however, is that when people access smells, theywill flare their nostrils.That's a direct sensory signal, just as the eyemovements we've been talking about are direct sensory signals, to letyou know what experience the person is having.They may or may notprecede that with a visual, kinesthetic, or auditory access, but you cansee the nostril flare.Turn to somebody close by; one of you decide to be A and the otherto be B.I'm going to ask A to watch B respond to the question I'mgoing to ask.A, clear your sensory channels and watch your partner'snose.B, when was the last time you took a good whiff ofNow is there any doubt about that? It's an involuntary response.Usually the person will breathe in at the moment the nostrils flare.Let me ask you all to do something else which is along these lines togive you another demonstration.As a child, you had lots ofexperiences.Maybe you had a grandmother who lived in a separatehouse that had special smells.Maybe it was some special food, or ablankie, or a little stuffed toy animal, or something else special to you.Pick some object from your childhood and either feel it, talk toyourself about it, or see it in your hands.When you have it in anyof those systems, breathe in strongly and let that take you where-it takes you.Try that for a minute.That's one way of accessingsmells.There are as many ways to use this information as your ingenuitypermits.If you use visual guided fantasy with your clients, there aresome clients you use it with automatically and it works fine.Other44people you wouldn't even try it with.What's the criterion you use todecide that, do you know? If they can visualize easily, you use visualguided fantasy, right? We're suggesting that you reverse that.Becausefor people who do not normally visualize in consciousness, visualguided fantasy will be a mind-blowing, profound change experience.For those who visualize all the time, it will be far less useful.The onlything you need to do in order to make it work for people whonormally visualize is to join their system wherever theytheir consciousness rapport and then slowly overlap tolead them into the system you want to engage them in fantasy with.Itwill be extremely powerful, much more powerful than with someonewho already visualizes.If you have any fragment of any experience, you can have it all.Letme ask you to do the following: Roll your shoulders forward and closeyour eyes and feel as though something or someone is pushing down onyour shoulders.And then take those feelings, intensify them, and letthem come up into a picture.Who or what do you find there? As youget the picture, I want you to notice some dimension of the picture thatis connected with some sound that would be occurring if that wereactually happening.And now hear the sound.That's the principle of overlap.You can always go to the state ofconsciousness a person indicates by their predicates, and from thereyou can overlap into any other of experience and train aperson to do any of these things.Richard: I know.I did it myself.Four years ago I couldn't see animage; in fact I didn't know that people did.I thought people werekidding when they did visual guided fantasies.I had no idea that theywere actually seeing images.And when I figured out what was goingon, I realized that there were these differences between people.Then Ibegan trying to make images.Of course, the way I first tried to makeimages was by talking to myself and having feelings, which is the waypeople who have trouble making images usually go about it.They sayto themselves "Gee, I should look at this even harder!" and then feelfrustrated.Of course, the more I talked to myself and the more I hadfeelings, the less I could see images.I had to learn to do it by overlap: bytaking a feeling or a sound and then adding the visual dimension.You can use overlap to train a client to be able to do all systems,which I think is a benefit for any human to be able to do.You yourselfcan notice which of the representational systems you use with45and sophistication, and which you have difficulty with [ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ]

zanotowane.pl

doc.pisz.pl

pdf.pisz.pl

bezglutenowo.pev.pl